Lesson 5: Goals Versus Wishful Thinking

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible” -Anthony Robbins  

Now that you know your “why” you can begin to set some clear goals that will help you move forward to achieving your big life purpose.

 Goal Setting begins with YOU; with the way you think.  Top achievers think differently.  Too many people spend their lives wishing for things.  They wish they could win the lottery, they wish for a new house, they wish to be able to put their children through college, they wish and wish and wish, but nothing materializes.  Top achievers set goals with a belief that no matter what they will attain what they have set out to do and as mentioned in the last lesson, their WHY is predominant in their mind.   For some people they don’t know how to dream to set goals.  However, if you did ask them if they won the lottery, what would they do with the money, you’ll hear people dream and dream and dream…  Your business is your winning lottery ticket!  The “things” you would do with money if you won the lottery are all very possible to achieve within your business if you have the right thinking, the right actions and persist moving forward no matter what.  Your mind is your visualization tool … you must visualize your goals, both long term and short term; the things you strongly desire to have in your life.  See and feel yourself driving in your new car, on that vacation with your family, in your new house, and see yourself as a strong leader.  The visualization and feeling is what carries many people to reach their goals.  They see themselves on stage as top leaders in the company and this is what carries them.

Some people in life believe you should only pursue goals you know you can achieve. Others believe the success lies in the growth that occurs from stretching beyond what you’ve already accomplished and stepping outside of what is comfortable to you.  What if what you are doing, you are doing VERY WELL, however, there is no possible way that the direction your activity is taking you in, will eventually lead you to your ultimate goals and highest aspirations?  Are you a success if you play it safe your whole life and never dare to step outside of your comfort zone?  Highly successful people are very clear about what they want and, if necessary, they will work for years to get it stepping outside of that area of comfort. Being the best you can be and achieving all your dreams is a life-long pursuit.  The most successful people who are truly content and satisfied with their lives are those who continuously set goals for themselves while taking humble pride in the accomplishments they’ve had; never looking in the rear-view mirror…. always the windshield! 

 How many “over-night successes” worked for 20 years to achieve their dreams? Henry Ford went bankrupt 3 times before he created a car that worked. Colonel Sanders tried to sell his chicken recipe to over 1000 restaurants before the first one bought it! Imagine being 65 years old, living in your car, going from restaurant to restaurant trying to sell a recipe with not a single taker! He knew his long-term plan, and he stuck to it!  It all comes down to personal growth and being aware of the choices and decisions you make in your life.   

Have you ever noticed the power displayed when one combines a decision with a goal? So many of us set goals but never actually decide to actually achieve those goals.  Do you see the difference between the two? When you combine a decision with your goal, you’ll do whatever it takes to achieve it!  Are you willing to become this decision? When you do, your life will change dramatically.  Do you have your goals written down that you desire to achieve and how you will give back once you’ve achieved these goals?  Do you have a game plan and know where you are going?  Determine what specific goal you want to achieve and then make the decision and dedicate yourself to it.   You can achieve any goal you set your mind to.  We all have the power to make our dreams come true. 

Then WHY do a lot of people FAIL to achieve a set goal?  They Fail for One Reason: they Don’t Know How To Set Goals.  Believe it – If you can dream it, you can achieve it. To achieve it, you need to know how.   The Key is S.M.A.R.T Goal Setting!  

Look at each goal and evaluate it.  Make any changes necessary to ensure it meets the criteria for a SMART goal:  This provides a broad definition to help you set goals in all areas of your life.

S = Specific,
M = Measurable, Meaningful, Motivational
A = Attainable, agreed upon, achievable,
R = Realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding
T = Timely, time based, tangible

Specific – Well defined and clear to anyone that has a basic knowledge of the project. A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal. To set a specific goal you must answer the six “W” questions:

*Who:    Who is involved?
*What:     What do I want to accomplish?  Use action words like lead, direct, plan.
*Where:   Identify a location.
*When:     Establish a time frame.
*Which:    Identify requirements and constraints.
*Why:       Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.  What do you want to ultimately accomplish? EXAMPLE:    A wish could be:  “I want a new house.”  A more specific goal could be:  “I will build a 3500sq ft west contemporary house on a 2.5 acre south facing lot by December 31, 2012, with hardwood floors, a great room vaulted ceiling and all windows on the south facing wall.”  See the difference between a wish and a specific goal?

Goals should be straightforward and emphasize what you want to happen. Specifics help us to focus our efforts and clearly define what we are going to do.


Measurable –Knowing if the goal is obtainable and how far away completion is; know when it has been achieved.Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set. When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued effort required to reach your goal. To determine if your goal is measurable, ask questions such as…How much? How many? How will I know when it is accomplished?  

Attainable – You can attain most any goal you set when you plan your steps wisely and the time frame that allows you to carry out the steps.

When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true.  You develop the attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them.  You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals. Goals that may have seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them.  When you list your goals you build your self-image.  You see yourself as worthy of these goals, and develop the traits and personality that allow you to possess them. The feeling of success, which this brings, helps you to remain motivated. 

Realistic – Within the availability of resources, knowledge and time.

To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work.  A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. Your goal is probably realistic if you truly believe that it can be accomplished.  Additional ways to know if your goal is realistic is to determine if you have accomplished anything similar in the past or ask yourself what conditions would have to exist to accomplish this goal. Devise a plan or a way of getting there which makes the goal realistic. The goal needs to be realistic for you and where you are at the moment.  Be sure to set goals that you can attain with some effort! Set the bar high enough for a satisfying achievement! Timely – Set a timeframe for the goal: for next week, in three months etc… Putting an end point on your goal gives you a clear target to work towards.If you don’t set a time, the commitment is too vague.  It tends not to happen because you feel you can start at any time.  Without a time limit, there’s no urgency to start taking action now.Time must be measurable, attainable and realistic. 

Everyone will benefit from goals and objectives if they are SMART.  S-M-A-R-T, is the instrument to apply in setting your goals and objectives.  

Goal setting can be very effective in all areas of your life from spirituality, family, business etc…  Breaking down your long-term aspirations into shorter realistic goals will help you to manage the process effectively.  You will need to think about what you want to achieve within a certain time frame, how this can be achieved and who can help.  In being Aware, ask yourself, “If I could change anything about my life, what would I wish for it to look like?”- now set the goals…  

Food for Thought when Setting Goals:

Examples: –   What three things did I do today to move my business forward?

How often was I in contact with my team members and sponsor or mentor?

How often did I actively work on my personal growth? 

-Did I do something each day?

Am I keeping my life in balance?

Am I rewarding myself in honor of accomplishing my achievements? (i.e.: buying a new shirt, going golfing, a haircut etc…) 

Assignment:  Complete the Goal-Setting worksheet below.     

When you set BIG Goals, it is important to set many smaller goals that coincide with it.  Even if you fail to reach your deadline for one Goal, you will still succeed at many, and you will build your confidence to a much higher level. To keep yourself “plowing ahead” and “staying the course” on the way to your dreams, we have developed a Goal-setting Worksheet for you.   

Goal Setting Worksheet: (put these goals into a notebook you carry with you as well.) 

1. What are your lifetime goals/dreams? Your business can be the vehicle to take you to where you want to go.  If you knew you would never fail, what would you be doing? (Find some additional photos of some of your goals and dreams and continue adding 2 pictures per week to your dream board.)                   

2. What are your goals for the next three to five years?  (Write these goals onto an additional piece of paper and put it in an envelope.  Seal the envelope and open it 5 years upon completing this lesson. You’ll be surprised.)       

3. What are your goals you’ve set out to do this year?  What are the things you need to do in order to accomplish these goals? 

4. What are your goals for the next 30 days?     

5. What are your goals for the next 24 hours… this is like a “to do” list!

6.  Write down 5 positive affirmations that you repeat each and every day of how you desire your life to be.  This will help rid habits and old ways of thinking that might be standing in your way of setting and achieving your goals.  i.e.( Every day, my income increases whether I am working, playing or sleeping.  Money comes easily and frequently.   My life is in complete balance.  Everything works out perfectly.)



Now that you’ve made the decision to take ownership of your goals and have clearly written them down, you are ready to move onto lesson 6, “What is my Game Plan?”  Congratulations!

 Natalie and Penny 

Copyright © 2007 Academy of Personal Development.  All rights reserved.

  1. December 12, 2009 at 1:52 am

    I highly enjoyed reading this post, keep on writing such exciting articles!!

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